“Could I be wrong in my thinking about this?”

“Could I be wrong in my thinking about this?”  -Mohsen Shabahang, Wellspan Health

I wondered as I heard him present about the nature of change, what this question could do for me. It does go counter to my usual question when I am stumped, “Something is wrong here." His question forces me to own the issue, my question externalizes actually making the issue even bigger. When I own the problem, I can decide what to do regardless of what the other person (or issue) is doing.